Motivation Monday: Getting Stuck in Planning Mode

Hello Lovelies,

Are you a goal setter?

As I have been working on goals for my "Year of Transformation", I've noticed something.

There is an insidious little behavior that tricks us into thinking that we are working on achieving our goals, when in fact, we are really not making progress toward them at all.
It seems to be worthwhile, because it is actually part of how we get started working on our goals, but if we aren't careful, it can take over and lull us into a false sense of accomplishment.

So what is this insidious behavior that is robbing us of our progress?


But not just planning...it's a bit more complicated than that.  Rather,  it's what I like to refer to as 

Perpetual Planning.

I'm sure you know what I'm referring to.  Especially if you are a perfectionist like I am.  Perpetual planning is when we continuously find another way to prepare for our goal rather than making any measurable progress in the direction of actually achieving anything.

Let me give you a little example from my personal life.  As part of my goals this year, I have been looking to breathe new life into my blog.  If you have been reading my blog over the past few months, you may have noticed a marked movement away from Interior Design and DIY and more toward Fashion and Lifestyle.

I have talked about switching things up with the blog many times over the past couple of years, but I finally started to do so recently.  You might think that this is progress.  And it is....to a degree.  But here's where the over-planning comes in.

As part of my blog revamp,  I have decided that I want to offer some online courses.  An in order to do so, it is a good idea to build up my email list.  So, I finally signed up with an email service.  And you may have noticed that I've added a pop-up email opt-in.  But that's as far as I've gone.


Planning.  I've been doing every bit of research I can on email lists and online courses.  I've taken  courses myself on these things.  I've read and I've written plans, and I've even set timelines.  Here's the thing.  None of these items are inherently bad.  In fact, they're necessary to get things moving efficiently.

So what's the problem then, Wendy?

The problem is, that I'm using these things as an excuse. If I'm taking courses, and signing up for services, and planning and making timelines, then I'm obviously making progress toward my goal.  Unless, I'm not actually getting started on the goal.  Unless, I'm considering these preliminary steps to be good enough and using them to mask the fear I have in moving forward.

And isn't that what it ultimately boils down to?  Fear?

Photo via Instagram account of @decor8

Fear can keep us from achieving so much in this life.  And the truth is that most of the successful people in this world are afraid.  They have just learned to push through the fear and work toward their goals anyway.

Getting started is usually the scariest part of any goal.  Once you are in the middle of it, it is rarely as scary as you thought it would be.

So let's get started.  If you have any goals that you are procrastinating by staying in
perpetual Planning Mode, it's time to push through and really get started.

I'm talking to myself here too.  So, let's do it together.  Let's push through the fear, pull ourselves out of planning mode, and MAKE THOSE GOALS HAPPEN!

Are you with me?




What I Wore Wednesday

Hello Lovelies!

I'm back with another edition of What I Wore Wednesday.

Fall is finally making an appearance around these parts and I couldn't be more excited!

Fall and Winter clothing have always been favorites of mine and I'm so ready to pull out the cozy sweaters and the boots.

I have a couple of outfits to share with you today.

First, one of my very favorite ways to transition between summer and fall...

I love this sleeveless dress from Old Navy and have worn it many times throughout the summer.  Transitioning to fall is very easy for a dress like this one...simply add tights, a cardi and cute ankle boots and you've got a great look that will last all Autumn long.

Cardigan:  Old Navy    Boots: Breckelle's

Next, a cute and casual sweater& jeans outfit perfect for getting a little work done.

Sweater:  Gap Factory    Jeans:  Old Navy    Watch:  Target

I've got some really exciting things in the work for the blog that I'll be sharing in the next couple of months.  I can't wait!  I sure hope you'll join me!

Have a great day!




What I Wore

Hello Lovelies,

This is the last week of my self-wardrobe evaluation mirror selfies.   Lol!  

And I actually forgot to document a couple of my outfits...but here are the remaining four for last week.

First up,  Striped Tunic:  JCrew Factory,   Jeans:  Old Navy,   Shoes:  Gap Factory

Top:  Brass & Roe from Called To Surf,   Jeans:  Old Navy,   Shoes:  GroopDealz,   
Bracelet:  Hope Ave.

Tee, Necklace and Watch:  Target,   Jeans and Shoes:  Gap Factory

Dress:  Old Navy 

You've probably guessed by now that I live really close to an Outlet Mall.  😂

Next week, I'm going to dissect some of what I learned about my wardrobe.  Hope you'll join me!




Motivation Monday

Hello Lovelies,

Today I want to follow up on my 30 day challenge.  

In a nutshell, for those of you who don't want to click through and read the post (although I would totally recommend it)  I shared a bit about my weight loss journey which began just over a year ago.  

My success has leveled off and in an attempt to jump start it again, I decided that I would issue a challenge to myself (and anyone out there who might want to join me) to exercise every day for 30 days.

So how did I do?

I failed.  Miserably.  (Face Palm)

I exercised.  But sporadically.  I wasn't diligent about what I was eating.  In short, I really didn't put in the effort...and I didn't lose any weight.  Big shock, right?

This is a before and after taken right before I started losing weight and roughly 3 months into my weight loss

I debated whether or not I even wanted to follow up on my original challenge post.  I thought that if I just didn't address it then the original post would fade away into cyberspace and hopefully no one would even remember.

But I want to be honest with myself.

Since I started my year of transformation, I have been making a lot of changes and one of the biggest is delving into the reasons that I have had difficulty achieving some of my goals.  My weight is something that I have struggled with my entire life.  I went through a chubby phase in elementary school, and although I grew out of it, I had already developed a very negative body image.

I was thin throughout Jr. High, High School, and College but I was constantly dieting.  I always thought that if I could just lose a couple of pounds or an inch or two around my thighs, life would be perfect.  Well, we all know that's not the case.  But that was my mindset.

And even though I realized, as I entered into adulthood, that I had a warped view of my body, my relationship with eating and weight loss was already ingrained in me.  I have realized a lot of other things about my relationship with food, my feelings about my body and other related items which I will discuss in future posts.

But for now, one thing I have learned is that I need support and accountability.  So I have gone back to Weight Watchers.  As some of you may remember, I attained my lifetime status a few months back, and so I quit going to meetings and got a bit lax.  I haven't really gained any weight (a couple of pounds that come and go) but I haven't lost any more, which is something I still want to do.

I guess I should explain that since I just said that I received lifetime status.  You see, I set my goal at the top end of my healthy weight range, and then maintained it for six weeks so that I could receive my lifetime status.  But I am small boned and actually feel better when I weigh toward the bottom end of my healthy weight range.  So I would still like to lose just over 20 lbs. 

The one thing that I learned through all of this is that I really need to attend meetings and weigh in.  The accountability of having to stand in front of my weight loss leader weekly and show the progress (or lack thereof) that I've made is very motivating for me.

And when I see the scale changing, it is more motivating for me to work out.

Soooo, all of that said, I'm starting fresh here at the beginning of September.
I'm attending Weight Watchers meetings and I'm working out.  And I'll check in with you as well..and let you know how it's going.  And if anyone out there is trying to lose weight or just get in better shape, let me know in the comments.  I'd love to give you any support I can toward your goal.  These are the only bodies we get, let's do right by them!




What I Wore Wednesday

Hello Lovelies!

Welcome to this week's edition of What I Wore Wednesday!

As I mentioned in last week's post, I'm in the middle of doing an "inventory" of my wardrobe.
To accomplish this, I've been snapping selfies of my daily outfits.

This last week, I was sick a couple of days, so I only have a few outfits to share with you.  But I hope that you enjoy...

This dress is a new favorite!  It's a maxi dress that I purchased from Piper and Scoot.  The empire waist is flattering on my "rectangle" figure, and the black floral will be wonderful all through fall and winter.

This outfit is bright and fun!  The tunic is from Gap Factory (last summer) and the jeans are from Old Navy.  (Yes, I buy a lot of Old Navy jeans...their mid-rise jeans fit me perfectly...and I love the Rock Star and Super Skinny styles).

This was my Saturday outfit...the same Old Navy jeans as in the previous photo (yep!  twice in one week.) and a boyfriend tee also from Old Navy which I always front tuck to give me a little bit of definition at the waist.  My watch is from Target and my Monogram bracelet was a GroopDealz purchase.

My final outfit includes a blouse gifted to me by my sister paired with a cardigan from Gap Factory (last season).  My jeans are from - you guessed it - Old Navy.   And my necklace is from J Crew.  Apparently this is the week of the brown lace-up shoes which I purchased last year from GroopDealz.   Also, for those that are curious, my phone case is from Rifle Paper Co.




What I Wore Wednesday

Hello Lovelies!

This week's What I Wore Wednesday is going to be a little bit different.
I have been taking inventory of what I wear on a daily basis because I am evaluating my own wardrobe and style.

So today, I'm going to share my last week's worth of outfits...all selfies taken in front of my living room mirror.  (lol!)  I am actually pretty proud of myself because I only wore blue jeans twice this week.  (No really, that's a big accomplishment).  I'm trying to mix it up a bit more.

One thing you'll notice is that I really do dress on a budget.  Sure, I'd love to go out and spend a fortune on clothes, but that's just not realistic for me.  I hope that my real life budget-friendly outfits might inspire someone out there, however.

Tee  - Merona for Target (a couple of seasons ago).  White Jeans - Merona for Target  (also older - these have always been a bit long, so this summer I cut the hem unevenly.  I like them much better now.)  Shoes - online - Groopdealz or Jane I think.

Dress:  Orange Creek    Shoes:  Online - Groopdealz

Dress:  WhoWhatWear for Target   Denim Jacket:  Thrifted- originally from Old Navy
Shoes:  Target ( a couple of seasons ago)

Tunic:  Sun and Shadow from Nordstrom   Jeans:  Old Navy

Dress:  Old Navy (This is actually my daughter's dress.  I love that it fits me.)

Classic jeans and a tee for running errands - I bought the tee forever ago and I don't actually remember where.  I love graphic tees however, and this one fits great!

Jeans:  Old Navy   Shoes: Gap Outlet

And because somebody will probably ask...my phone case is from Rifle Paper Co. :)

Have a great day!